A bride and her groom spent a lot of time planning their wedding. On Reddit, she explains that they had to make a difficult decision: to ask the guests not to come with their offspring. “My husband and I have made it clear that our marriage will be childless. I have a cousin who has eight children, and relatives and friends both have two or three children. The children are Generally very friendly, the main issue was the price, our room charged the same price for children over 2 and adults, $250 [environ 225 euros, ndlr] per person. It should have doubled the price and our room was not big enough for all the children”she says.
The newlyweds offer solutions to the parents
The bride and groom notified all the parents and, in accordance, they had a lot of questions. Some even blamed them. They therefore sought a compromise and proposed two things: to extend the duration of the dinner the day before so that the children could enjoy it, since “the restaurant was very sympathetic to the idea of having almost 100 children”. The other measure they put in place was to hire five babysitters for the wedding day. These were to look after the 25-30 children of guests who had not found childcare and for those who lived far away. This giant nursery was set up in the house of the bride’s in-laws, just 30 minutes’ drive from the wedding venue.
Parents do not follow instructions
Despite the proposed solutions, which are quite nice considering that many couples who want a childless marriage usually don’t bother to arrange childcare, three couples came with their own. A total of nine children were present, one couple having two, another three and another four. “My husband was more upset than me because they were guests on his side. His groomsmen offered to drive the kids home [de mes beaux-parents], but they were turned down and upgraded a scene. My husband was called to handle the situation, and he said they could stay as long as the kids didn’t cause a problem and the parents paid their share. The room team even quickly set up a table for the children”remembers the bride.
For her part, already stressed, she tries not to think about it. Only, during the ceremony, things started to go wrong. The couple’s offspring with two kids made a mess, with one screaming and the other running down the aisle as the bride made her way down the aisle: “I stayed calm, and the employees reacted instantly. They took away mother and children outside. The rest of the ceremony went well.”
At the time of the reception, things get out of hand again. These same children are screaming and throwing food everywhere. “Guests and staff were trying to get them to sit down. At one point a child went under my dress which was so weird. I didn’t notice and almost tripped. My the bridesmaids pointed out to me that the food they received had landed on my wedding dress, and that’s when I had enough he gathered the kids, brought them to their parents and asked them to leave permanently”says the bride.
Parents don’t want to pay their children’s share
“After the wedding, and this is where we may be at fault, we sent the bill to the three couples with a letter telling them that we had a good time with them and reminding them that they had accepted to pay for their uninvited children’s share. Two couples paid and were sorry, and even said they understood why we couldn’t include the children. Of course, the couple with the two rambunctious children refused to pay because we asked them to leave before the cake. Instead of apologizing, we received an angry call. All I said was that they must be happy that I did not send them the pressing bill for the dress. My husband even said it was the end of their friendship”this explains woman.
If she tells this story today, it is because relations have not calmed down with this couple. “They wanted to visit us and said ‘no thank you’. They asked if we were still angry that they hadn’t paid and, yes, we are”, she explains. One can understand why, given the problems caused by their children. Not to mention the additional expenses due to their presence, namely $500 for the room and the bill to clean the dress, which must have been higher than if it had not had any food stains…
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